Tuesday, February 23, 2010

silver and gold

Make new friends
But keep the old
One is silver
And the other's gold.

For anyone who is a former girl scout, sorry for getting that song stuck in your head, but it's been on constant play (in a round) in my head for a couple of weeks.

It all started as I drove away from my bestest friend's house a few weeks ago. It had been far too long since I had seen her. As in, she had a baby four months ago, and I hadn't met the precious little one yet (yes, I am a bad friend - I'll spare you the excuses). And even while she was still pregnant, I can't really remember the last time we had any real time together.

And no, she doesn't live hours and hours away. Just 20 minutes. Sad, isn't it? This is just one of the side effects of life getting in the way. And while I missed her, life was busy for both of us (see aforementioned new baby for her... see many excuses from me that I'm not mentioning). But I didn't realize just how much I missed her until I was driving away a few weeks ago and that song popped into my head out of nowhere.

You just can't replace a great friend.

I've seen her twice since that first time a few weeks ago. And I'm just amazed at how our time together has been so easy and smooth. It's as if no time at all has passed. It's been wonderful.

Just today, after my most recent visit with her, I told my husband how much I realized that our visits together are different than with any other friends. It was a simple visit - Punkin and I went over to her house, so Punkin could continue to get to know her two boys and give hugs to their new little sister and so my friend and I could just chat and catch up. She apologized for not really "stopping" the entire time we were there - she continued doing the tasks that she needed to do - and we gabbed and laughed the whole time. I told her that she didn't need to apologize - I actually think it's great that she's comfortable enough to not feel like she needs to "entertain" me. I just felt at home.

I love how after all these months, we just fell right back into step with each other, as if we didn't miss a beat. I'm blessed to count her as a friend.


Bridget said...

Those are some of the best kind of friends. I'm staying with one of those kinds of friends while I recuperate from my surgery. She doesn't care what I look like, how much or how little I talk...or really even how much or how little I shower! lol.
(plus she has a super-comfy bed!)

Wendy said...

Give yourself some kudos for taking the time now, regardless of how long it's been. Some people just keep letting that gap stretch and stretch until...........

I've only ever met three women that I could be that comfortable with. (I would count you, but we haven't "met" yet. Gotta fix that someday, sister!) My mother, who passed away four years ago, my sister, who lives 1000 miles away, and my pastor's wife. I'm glad you've got someone close by to have that relationship with. It's a beautiful thing.

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